Wim Hof: "How not to lose your cool as a parent."

Oh there he is...

Hi guys!

Lately I was with my son...

’Noonie’

the nickname of Eden.

I like to ride my bicycle.

Have a nice time.

You too.

Bye.

Riding a bike is amazing.

So recently I did that with my little son.

I bought him a bike,

and that same day, he was riding the bike.

They apprehend so fast.

Look!

Look daddy.

What do we have here?

What is this?

When he sees a tree or something to climb in...

he goes of the bike into the tree.

He becomes a monkey.

Yeah.

Tree climbing is a great way to lose your fears

To go past your inhibitions.

To gain skills.

Motorical skills.

And just feel it!

Sweetie...

Look at that.

I’m really high.

Yeah.

You are high.

Hi!

And then suddenly he’s up there,

and I think “oh sh#t...”

If he falls now he's going to break something...

He lost his control a little bit.

and it's slippery on a tree like that.

And it's difficult.

And then he locks up and freezes.

I can’t....

You just have to try.

Climbing and all is great...

But when the thinking starts to come in,

That’s when you can lose the grip.

At that moment I also had fear.

which creates a paralyzing situation.

That moment I think,

“Okay be here.”

Be caring.

And that’s it.

And then go to the situation

Just get it so you can hold his leg to go there.

Yeah sure.

You’re going to have to bend down.

Put your foot back on daddy’s leg.

Now you can do it.

You can do it.

Hold it.

Here.

Are you coming?

It's okay to be scared.

I'm also scared

Show them that you are there.

and they will do the rest.

Nice.

Daddy now it’s your turn.

Okay.

I will try.

See?

We have to learn to be there.

If we are there then they know you are there.

and the next time he will be fearless.

Less fear.

Less fear.

And that's how he will begin to understand his own mind.

Because in the end, we are humans with a monkey body.

We look like chimps man.

Yeah.

Whoa!

Thank you Noonie.

Thank you for showing me.

Where do you want to go?

He can hold on there.

Hello!

Hello...

Monkeys.

We are like monkeys.

The magic happens when we let go.

It's like the ice bath.

Let go, and the body is able to dealing with the situation more than you're thinking.

More than you're thinking.

Then you just follow the other leg.

The other leg down to the other branch.

As a parent, you can’t ‘lock up’ a child

to have it secured from the dangers of life.

They have to test themselves.

There are limits they have to surpass

We have to be there.

How did I do that?

How did you do that?

That's it.

And then turn around the other foot.

There we are.

You just got to take a minute to think about it.

Don't stop their development.

“Don’t do this”

”Don’t do that.”

No that's no good,

Because situations in life will come.

Where you need the skills you gained during your youth.

where they can go past their own perceived limits.

So be there.

For your kid please.

so he’s better able to face bigger problems later in life.

He's got these motorical skills to go past it.

Look at you!

We should not interfere too much with the neurological development,

Motorical nerves coming in.

Cycling, climbing and going further.

No!

What a beautiful boy he is.

Climbing

Everthing.

Riding a bike...

Look at me.

Just look at me daddy.

Four years old.

They are amazing at what they can do.

So let your children play.

Let the children play.

Let the children climb in trees,

‘Being freeze’ and being okay.

Tree climbing.